Imagine sitting in a job interview with a hiring manager staring at you. She’s just asked you a difficult question. Feeling confident?
Some people are self-assured by nature. The rest of us have to work at it. Fortunately, confidence is something we can build.
Here are some suggestions for ways to do just that.
1. Visualize success
Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. In your mind’s eye, see yourself, the hiring manager, and her office in detail. What are you wearing? What’s on her desk?
Now imagine that you’re completely prepared for that difficult question she just asked.
Picture yourself sitting up straight and feeling relaxed. You have a slight smile. You know this topic well and enjoy talking about it.
You’re speaking with assurance and enthusiasm.
And you see her looking impressed.
2. Exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep
We all know we’re supposed to exercise, right? But why is it especially helpful for building self-confidence?
One, it lowers stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. It also makes endorphins that naturally create an upbeat mood.
Two, keeping up an exercise program is hard for most people. When we do so, it makes us feel proud.
And three, we usually look better when we exercise.
3. Give attention to your appearance
Just as your environment reflects your sense of calm or chaos, how you present your appearance reflects your self-esteem.
People treat you differently when you look put-together. Even more important, you can change how you view yourself when you spruce up a little.
Something as simple as ironing your shirt or getting a good haircut boosts confidence.
The clothes we put on can have a big impact on how self-assured we feel. Dress the part of someone who takes themselves seriously and is attentive to details.
It may well make you more aware of all that you have to offer.
4. Pay attention to other people
Low self-confidence mushrooms when we’re focused on our selves and our worries. But helping other people and thinking about their happiness makes us feel better.
Something as little as paying someone a compliment will lift your spirits as well as theirs.
Learn some jokes to tell. This will get you smiling more without plastering an artificial grin on your face. Humor helps us relax and creates a good feeling between people.
This is also a good time to think about volunteering. It makes you feel good and gets you around friendly people. You’ll get the chance to use your abilities to make someone else’s day better.
5. De-clutter your home or office
Your environment can say a lot about what’s going on inside you. What does your desk, dresser or bathroom counter top show about how settled you feel?
You can impact your mood and sense of control by bringing order to your surroundings. Take even 15 minutes to straighten your work or living space.
When you finish, enjoy this newly organized area for a little while. You’ll feel a sense of greater ease and accomplishment.
There is so much in life that we cannot control: the economy, what others do, world events. But you always have control over your level of self-confidence.
Try out these ideas and watch your optimism grow. You’ll be happy to see how much your choices can change your life.