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5 Guaranteed Ways To Boost Self Confidence

Imagine sitting in a job interview with a hiring manager staring at you. She’s just asked you a difficult question. Feeling confident?

Some people are self-assured by nature. The rest of us have to work at it. Fortunately, confidence is something we can build.

Here are some suggestions for ways to do just that.

1. Visualize success

Close your eyes and take a few deep breaths. In your mind’s eye, see yourself, the hiring manager, and her office in detail. What are you wearing? What’s on her desk?

Now imagine that you’re completely prepared for that difficult question she just asked.

Picture yourself sitting up straight and feeling relaxed. You have a slight smile. You know this topic well and enjoy talking about it.

You’re speaking with assurance and enthusiasm.

And you see her looking impressed.

2. Exercise, eat well, and get enough sleep

We all know we’re supposed to exercise, right? But why is it especially helpful for building self-confidence?

One, it lowers stress hormones like adrenaline and cortisol. It also makes endorphins that naturally create an upbeat mood.

Two, keeping up an exercise program is hard for most people. When we do so, it makes us feel proud.

And three, we usually look better when we exercise.

3. Give attention to your appearance

Just as your environment reflects your sense of calm or chaos, how you present your appearance reflects your self-esteem.

People treat you differently when you look put-together. Even more important, you can change how you view yourself when you spruce up a little.

Something as simple as ironing your shirt or getting a good haircut boosts confidence.

The clothes we put on can have a big impact on how self-assured we feel. Dress the part of someone who takes themselves seriously and is attentive to details.

It may well make you more aware of all that you have to offer.

4. Pay attention to other people

Low self-confidence mushrooms when we’re focused on our selves and our worries. But helping other people and thinking about their happiness makes us feel better.

Something as little as paying someone a compliment will lift your spirits as well as theirs.

Learn some jokes to tell. This will get you smiling more without plastering an artificial grin on your face. Humor helps us relax and creates a good feeling between people.

This is also a good time to think about volunteering. It makes you feel good and gets you around friendly people. You’ll get the chance to use your abilities to make someone else’s day better.

5. De-clutter your home or office

Your environment can say a lot about what’s going on inside you. What does your desk, dresser or bathroom counter top show about how settled you feel?

You can impact your mood and sense of control by bringing order to your surroundings. Take even 15 minutes to straighten your work or living space.

When you finish, enjoy this newly organized area for a little while. You’ll feel a sense of greater ease and accomplishment.

Finally….

There is so much in life that we cannot control: the economy, what others do, world events. But you always have control over your level of self-confidence.

Try out these ideas and watch your optimism grow. You’ll be happy to see how much your choices can change your life.

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The Job Interview: When Your Last Job Done You Wrong

P47A by Symic
P47A, a photo by Symic on Flickr.

Now we’re going to talk about a most important rule for job interviews: never ever criticize your former employer.

I don’t care if the organization lurched around like a ship of doom with no rudder. I don’t care if your boss teased small caged animals.

Never let me hear that you’ve badmouthed an employer.

This seems obvious, but you’d be surprised how many people slip into this when they’re feeling nervous. Especially if you were let go, you want people to think that the other party was to blame, not you.

You may well have had to quit to keep your sanity, your health or your integrity, and you hate to think that a job interviewer would see you as a flake.

You can get around whatever happened in your last job and come out looking like a mature person if you speak respectfully about your former employer. Talk about how you came to realize that you and the organization were not a good fit. Talk about how you’ll be a better employee now because of what you learned from the experience. Just be careful not to say too much.

Your interviewer is not stupid; he or she will read between the lines. They know that organizational weirdness happens a lot.

They’ll also be impressed by your composure and know that if they give you a job, you won’t go around someday telling everybody that you work for a bunch of losers.

If you did play a big part in the conflict between yourself and your former employer, you need to figure out what happened and take responsibility for changing. We usually have some role in a relationship that ends badly. Figure out where and why your behavior was less than optimal. You’ll then be able to authentically speak in a balanced way about why you left or were let go.

Kvetch about your former employer with your friends, unless they’re already sick of hearing about it. Then let it go. Walk into the job interview fresh, feeling optimistic about the potential for good things to happen. And if I see that former boss of yours, I’ll blow a raspberry at ‘em and let them see how it feels.

Comments, please: How have you gotten past a bad experience with an employer?

The Job Interview: A Relationship

You might feel anything between mild jitters to flat out dread as you anticipate a job interview. You may wonder if you’ll sound stupid, if you’ll stutter, if the interviewer will approve of you as a human being.

But a job interview isn’t an evaluation. It’s a relationship.

Both of you need something. You are there to negotiate whether it sounds like your valuable skills and energy will help them accomplish something that’s important to them.

You are peers. They wouldn’t be talking to you if they weren’t impressed.

“But will I live up to expectations?” That’s the wrong question. What’s more important for you to ask is: How can I add something positive to this person’s day?

Pay attention to the emotional climate as the two of you talk. If you’re intrigued, that’s a good sign. Do you like this person? Or not so much? Do you feel some excitement? Does the interviewer seem to feel some excitement? Or, is something not quite right?

You really don’t want to give them the wrong person for the job. That would serve no one. Do that and you’ll find yourself stuck in a situation that drains your energy. You could be off doing something that suits you, and doing it well. Instead, you’d have to do work you’re not cut out for. That would wear down your confidence and you’d start to feel that you really don’t have too much to offer. At the inevitable next job interview you’d feel even more insecure.

You also wouldn’t be giving them what they deserve.

You will have a relationship with the person interviewing you, maybe brief, maybe long term. This meeting of two people is what is important, not trying to package and sell yourself.

Take this opportunity to extend good will to this other person, not so that they’ll like you and give you a job but because they deserve it. You deserve the good feeling you’ll get by giving them the little gift of wishing them well.

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